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What inspired me to write A State of Jane was my experience dating in New York City. I have a boyfriend now but at the time, I was single and one after another, guys who seemed to be completely smitten with me would simply disappear. Sometimes it was easy to figure out what happened, for instance, when the guy came on super strong, was oozing with charm and then never called me again when I refused to go home with him. Other times, I was completely thrown. Like the time a guy disappeared in the middle of an email exchange. We had gone out several times and I thought we got along famously but once I confessed that I preferred Mr. Furley to Mr. Roper as the landlord on the television show Three’s Company, he ceased our email exchange and never asked me out again. I didn’t hear from him until years later when he asked to connect with me on Linkedin of all places! Another guy pulled a Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde on me in the middle of New Year’s Eve. Yes, he was all touchy-feely and excited about ringing in the New Year with me at 11:59pm on December 31, 2007 but by 2:00am on January 1, 2008, he was more interested in his buddy at the sports bar he took me to after dinner. Oh, and let’s not forget about the guy I was dating for a couple of months who made me breakfast at his place after a sleepover, showed me the home movies of his students practicing for crew, took a nice leisurely walk around the lake and waited with me for an hour after I missed my train, only to never call me again as well as ignore my phone call and email to him. Not only did he lack the decency to initiate a “break-up”, he couldn’t even locate the balls to respond to an email I sent asking him if everything was ok. If he didn’t want to see me anymore, he could have lied and written an email saying he was too busy with school to date. That would have at least been an attempt to spare my feelings, but no, it was like I ceased to exist and it hurt. I wasn’t in love with the guy but I felt so violated and, well, stupid! I cried for days.
As mostly anyone who has been single for a significant period of time can tell you, dating in NYC is brutal. I’m sure it is brutal elsewhere but NYC is a whole other type of brutal. So, when I decided to write about a naïve woman who dives head first into the dating scene after a long term relationship, all optimistic and expecting to meet the love of her life, only to find an island full of men who are interested today and gone tomorrow, the location was a no-brainer – New York City – or as I like to call it “The planet of the flakes.”
In A State of Jane, there are many mentions of New York being a difficult place to find “the one.” Without giving any spoilers, I thought I would share some of these lines with you:
“Yes, Manhattan is full of eligible bachelors. Eligible bachelors who are looking to get laid, unemployed, not interested, or gay!”
“I’d like to know the reason God put all the asshole single guys on the island of Manhattan! They are only good for one thing, some of them better than others.”
“I think normal has a different definition when it comes to guys in New York City. There are so many girls here that for guys it’s like eating at a Chinese buffet. They want to sample everything.”
“I got him unjaded. Unlike some of these others New York City guys.”
“I’d heard that New York City girls were a ruthless bunch but, blimey, I wasn’t expecting it from you.” (Yes, sometimes we ladies are pretty messed up too….)
He just faded into oblivion – like every other guy I dated before him since my reentrance into the dating world. I didn’t think my mom would understand behavior like that was par for the course in New York City, especially since three guys flaked on me before I wised up.
“Not as difficult as finding a husband.” I pointed out the window of the bus. “Especially in this Godforsaken city!”
“It’s because of the men in this city! You dump us when we don’t sleep with you. You dump us when we DO sleep with you. And sometimes, you dump us for no reason at all!”
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