Bachelor Pad Jamie/Chris

Does anyone else watch Bachelor Pad? It’s so ridiculous and most of the time I am only half watching while doing other things, like writing or switching the channel to the Olympics or baseball. The participants have the biggest egos ever and I really can’t stand any of them. Almost none of them have the same personality they had while contestants on The Bachelor or The Bachelorette (not that they were much better on those shows) and, yes, I know it’s scripted. But still. Anyway, Jamie has a crush on Chris and they’ve made out a few times. As far as I know, that’s all they’ve done but I’m probably being naive to assume they haven’t had sex just because it hasn’t been broadcast. Chris is playing both sides of the fence – he knows that Blakely is a good competitor and he wants to remain her teammate because of it (and probably also because she’s a bit psycho) but he’s not interested in her on a romantic level. He assures Blakely that he’s loyal to her but he also wants to score with the ladies. Initially, he seemed to like Jamie – when they were just flirting and shared a mutual crush. But Jamie made the mistake that so many of us women do and assumed that just because he showed some interest in her, he owed her a relationship and just because they made out, he had deep feelings. A kiss does not equal a relationship and an initial spark of chemistry does not come with the promise of a true emotional connection. And beyond that, even if Chris did like her at first, he might have changed his mind. It happens in the real life dating world so why wouldn’t it happen on Bachelor Pad? Just as a women’s prerogative is to change her mind, a man can do it as well. And regardless of his initial intentions, Chris has now made it clear that he’s no longer interested in her. He told her it wasn’t her, “it’s me” and she responded by accusing him of never initiating, never pursuing her, making her do all the work, blah, blah, blah. Duh, Jamie – he just told you he wasn’t interested. If a guy is not interested, he is not going to initiate or pursue. It’s totally normal to feel bad and maybe even shed a few self-pity tears but don’t let him (or the rest of the world) see it.  You’re a cute girl – hold your head up high, stand up straight, stick your huge boobs in the air and move on. Game over. Except that the coming attractions for next week show them hooking up again! Chris rejected her on national television and she’s coming back for more. My stomach cringes in agony as I imagine Jamie explaining away or simply shrugging off Chris’s previous rejection and playing right into his hands. STOP IT!!

OK, I’ll admit that I’ve given some guys more chances than they deserved in my past due to wishful thinking on my part and some denial of reality but it wasn’t on television in front of millions of people and I felt beyond stupid after the fact. I’ve also made the mistake of assuming that some expressions of interest would ultimately morph into something more, like dating or a relationship. And I felt completely rejected when the guy seemingly lost interest and started dating someone else. It hurt, but even then I knew I had no hold on the guy, no basis to yell at him or even confront him about it because he didn’t owe me anything. All he did was express interest but he was never mine to lose. It’s not easy to get over someone you feel a connection with, especially when he dangles the goods in your face and then pulls them away without warning. When someone shows no interest at all, it’s much easier to accept than when something seems to start and then never takes off. It makes you wonder “what did I do wrong?” but the danger there is you start to give the guy more credit than he probably deserves, you start to romanticize what could have been, and you lose complete sight of reality. I’ve been there. Jamie is making so much of this “relationship” with Chris when in truth, all they shared was a casual hook up. She doesn’t even know him, other than that he looks amazing with his shirt off. He blows hot and cold with her. She saw him with another woman in his bed and most importantly, he already rejected her. He’s not worth her emotions. I really hope she sees him for what he is before she wastes even more time and makes an even bigger fool of herself on television but if I was a betting woman, my money would, sadly, be on Chris.

I still have to ask myself – why do I watch this show???

movies we ♥

Valentine’s Day is less than a week away and so it’s no surprise that many bloggers are posting about all things ‘love’.  Since all the cool people are doing it, so will I. 

Today, I’m blogging about my favorite movies in the romance/love story/romantic comedy genre and to tie my post into writing, my favorite lines from each.  I’ve tried to include my favorite quote relating to the “love” theme, but in some cases, my favorite line from the movie is not at all romantic but just plain funny.  And in some cases, it was too hard to choose just one quote and so I didn’t:

 Bridget Jone’s Diary

 “I don’t think you’re an idiot at all. I mean, there are elements of the ridiculous about you. Your mother’s pretty interesting. And you really are an appallingly bad public speaker. And, um, you tend to let whatever’s in your head come out of your mouth without much consideration of the consequences… But the thing is, um, what I’m trying to say, very inarticulately, is that, um, in fact, perhaps despite appearances, I like you, very much. Just as you are” – Mark Darcy to Bridget Jones

 When Harry Met Sally 

 “I love that you get cold when it’s 71 degrees out. I love that it takes you an hour and a half to order a sandwich. I love that you get a little crinkle above your nose when you’re looking at me like I’m nuts. I love that after I spend the day with you, I can still smell your perfume on my clothes. And I love that you are the last person I want to talk to before I go to sleep at night. And it’s not because I’m lonely, and it’s not because it’s New Year’s Eve. I came here tonight because when you realize you want to spend the rest of your life with somebody, you want the rest of your life to start as soon as possible” – Harry Burns to Sally Albright

 ‘Cause someday, believe it or not, you’ll go 15 rounds over who’s gonna get this coffee table. This stupid, wagon wheel, Roy Rogers, garage sale COFFEE TABLE.”  – Harry Burns ( My sister and I have had many laughs over this one through the years!)

 The Way We Were

 “If I push too hard it’s because I want things to be better, I want us to be better, I want you to be better. Sure I make waves you have I mean you have to. And I’ll keep making them till your everything you should be and will be. You’ll never find anyone as good for you as I am, to believe in you as much as I do or to love you as much” – Katie Morosky to Hubbell Gardiner (My favorite love story EVER except each time I read it, I say an unanswered prayer for a different ending)

  Love Actually

 “With any luck, by next year – I’ll be going out with one of these girls. But for now, let me say – Without hope or agenda – Just because it’s Christmas – And at Christmas you tell the truth – To me, you are perfect – And my wasted heart will love you – Until you look like this Merry Christmas” – Mark to Juliet

  

Jamie: You learned English?
Aurelia: Just in cases.

 (Just makes me giggle…)

 Jerry Maguire 

 “On the surface, everything seems fine. I’ve got this great guy. And he loves my kid. And he sure does like me a lot. And I can’t live like that. It’s not the way I’m built” – Dorothy to Jerry.

 “All right. I shoplifted the pootie” – Jerry to Rod. (Again, just makes me giggle.) 

Gone With the Wind 

“There’s one thing I do know… and that is that I love you, Scarlett. In spite of you and me and the whole silly world going to pieces around us, I love you. Because we’re alike. Bad lots, both of us. Selfish and shrewd. But able to look things in the eyes as we call them by their right names” – Rhett to Scarlett.

You’ve Got Mail

“Yeah. I would have asked for your number, and I wouldn’t have been able to wait twenty-four hours before calling you and saying, “Hey, how about… oh, how about some coffee or, you know, drinks or dinner or a movie… for as long as we both shall live?” – Joe Fox to Kathleen Kelly 

“Well, let me ask you something. How can you forgive this guy for standing you up and not forgive me for this tiny little thing of… of putting you out of business?” – Joe Fox to Kathleen Kelly 

Spendor in the Grass 

“Deanie – You’re a nice girl” – Bud

“I’m not. I’m not a nice girl.” – Wilma Dean

Another movie that usually results in the depletion of all of the tissues, napkins, paper towels and any other printed matter I have in my apartment from the tears I shed agonizing over the ending. 

13 Going on 30 

“Hey! You got arm hair!” – Jenna

“Never got quite that reaction before.” – Matt

Clueless 

“You look like Pippi Longstocking.” – Josh 

“Well you look like Forrest Gump. Who’s Pippi Longstocking?” – Cher

“Someone Mel Gibson never played.” – Josh

“Cher, I don’t want to do this anymore. And my buns: they don’t feel nothin’ like steel” – Tai to Cher.

“Why do you care what *he* thinks, Murray? I’m the one who has to look at you! What am I gonna do with you now? And right before the yearbook pictures? What am I gonna tell my grandchildren? You know what? That’s it…”  Dionne to Murray 

 “He’s a disco-dancing, Oscar Wilde-reading, Streisand ticket-holding friend of Dorothy, know what I’m saying?” – Murray to Cher and Dionne 

I could go on and on and on…

The Sure Thing 

 “Yeah, Nick. Nick’s a real name. Nick’s your buddy. Nick’s the kind of guy you can trust, the kind of guy you can drink a beer with, the kind of guy who doesn’t mind if you puke in his car, Nick!” – Walter (“Gib”) Gibson

 “You know, junk food doesn’t deserve the bad rap that it gets. Take these pork rinds for example. This particular brand contains two percent of the R.D.A. – that’s Recommended Daily Allowance – of riboflavin.” – Gib

“What the hell’s wrong with being stupid once in awhile? Does everything you do always have to be sensible? Haven’t you ever thrown waterballoons off a roof? When you were a little kid didn’t you ever sprinkle Ivory flakes on the living room floor ’cause you wanted to make it snow in July? Didn’t you ever get really shitfaced and maybe make a complete fool of yourself and still have an excellent time?” – Gib 

 “Oh. It’s not easy getting rides. Do you know what I mean? I mean most people are real afraid to pick up hitchhikers. I mean you never know who you might pick up. I mean I could be some crazed slime ball. I mean a real deranged, violent psycho. You know what I mean? I mean a guy who would rip out your heart and eat it – just for pleasure.” – Gib

 That Gib is one funny dude.  But seriously, The Sure Thing might be one of the most underrated romantic comedies ever.  I watched it again recently and it never gets old. 

Can’t Buy Me Love 

 “I need to talk to you. Every time I call you’re either taking a bath, washing your hair or you’re out of the country. That was a good one, by the way”. – Ronald Miller to Cindy Mancini

 “I mean, he went from totally geek, to totally chic!” – Patty

“We were all friends then, remember? And now you want to end his life because he’s talking to Patty on your side of the cafeteria. Oh man, that’s stupid. I know cuz that’s where I wanted to be. On your side, with your crowd. But I messed up. See, I tried to buy my way in. But Kenneth, he’s not trying to buy anybody. He’s just trying to make friends *being* *himself*. Cools, Nerds, your side, my side, man it’s all bullshit. It’s just tough enough to be yourself.” – Ronald Miller 

And there you have it – a list of my favorite “chick” movies and some of the lines that helped them make the list.  

With Valentines Day approaching, what are your top love stories/romantic comedies and most memorable quotes?