weekend musings

After two different people told me this week how much they enjoyed reading my blog posts, particularly the more personal ones, I knew what I had to do—write a blog post, obviously!

The weather is sort of crappy today, but it didn’t bother me because I had obligations that kept me from enjoying the outdoors anyway. After a morning excursion to the gym, I spent several hours working on my eighth novel, the third installment of my Blogger Girl series. Now I’m doing laundry while I simultaneously write this blog.

Let’s continue where we left off last time. I’m convinced that online dating is not the way to go for me. I haven’t had any desire to meet the various men who have reached out to me. The one guy I was corresponding with before my vacation to Barbados disappeared before we could set up a date. The fact that I wasn’t at all surprised or disappointed spoke volumes as to my actual interest. The truth is, I’m incapable of getting excited about someone until we meet face-to-face and until that happens, I have nothing vested.

Since I brought up Barbados, let’s change direction, shall we? I spent six days there with five of my girlfriends over Memorial Day and it was wonderful! It was my third time there because it’s a triple threat—aside from an occasional brief thunderstorm, the weather is amazing; the seafood is fresh and delicious, and the people are super friendly. Rest, relaxation, cocktails in the pool, amazing food, and time with my besties? Yes please.

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I didn’t want to come home, but I softened the blow by taking a few extra days off from work. I caught up on the writing I didn’t do in Barbados, met up with the president of my publishing company, Henery Press, who was in town for the Book Expo America conference, and attended a cousin’s wedding with my family. I also got home just in time to watch the newly streaming third season of Bloodline. Anyone else watching it?

Back to dating. One of my author friends wants to set me up with someone—her friend’s friend. Apparently, he was very excited to get in touch with me. I gave my friend the go-ahead and haven’t heard a peep yet—shocker. Again, nothing vested. I’m also strapped for time right now due to writing obligations so it’s best not to go out of my way to add things to my social schedule. Which brings me to deadlines!

I have until September 1st to deliver my next book to my editor. I’m heading toward the end of my first draft and gave myself a self-imposed deadline of August 1st to finish. I already sent the first two hundred pages to my beta readers to give them a head start. I’m nervous because summertime always brings more social outings and I hate to miss out on excursions with my friends. I’m already stressed out about the plans I’ve made so far. My oldest sister is also visiting from Denver in late July and my close friend from Seattle in August. I need to reserve enough time to write in between my day job and all this fun stuff. On top of that, as much as I love being social, I’m an introvert at heart who is not only very comfortable with alone time, but craves it. I need it to recharge. It’s one of the reasons I’m very selective about who I date. I have very limited free time as it is and I need to enjoy my time with him as much as and hopefully more than my “me” time. That’s my test. Most men don’t make the cut, but I’m confident he’s out there. Maybe I already know him and we just haven’t crossed the line from friends to more yet. Anything is possible!

Before I bid you adieu, heads up that I will be announcing the title of my next stand-alone romantic comedy in my next blog, shortly after July 4th. I am more excited about this new release than any of my others so far. (Although I probably always say that.) Maybe I’ll also share my pictures from the mini-break I’m taking to the vineyards in Connecticut over the holiday.

Finally, my contemporary young adult novel, Kim vs. the Mean Girl, is currently on sale for $0.99 cents. If you haven’t picked it up yet, this would be a good time to get it
cheap. It’s a great read  🙂

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simply catching up

Today, I’m not revealing a book cover or announcing a new release, I’m just going to share a few thoughts currently on my mind.

I broke down and joined an online dating site last month. I’m not going all-in and revolving my life around “the search,” but I check out my matches every couple of days and have been on two dates already. I still hope to meet someone through introductions or simply living my life and doing the things I enjoy, but as the old saying goes, “it only takes one.” So far, there are two things that totally turn me off about many of the profiles I’m seeing. One: the negativity. “Please be local. Not looking for long-distance ladies!” “None of this lunch date nonsense. If you can’t spare an evening for dinner, how are you going to have time for a relationship?” “Please no pictures of you with your pets.” I shudder when I read profiles like this. How about posting what you do want and simply ignoring the profiles that don’t meet your criteria? By doing it your way, you sound bossy, full of yourself, and not like anybody I’d want to date.

But even more repulsive, to me, are the men who say they are looking for women who, at their oldest, are still ten years younger than them. If you’re a forty-eight-year-old man who isn’t even willing to meet someone even five years younger than you (or God forbid a year older), you better have the body of Channing Tatum, the brains/success of Jeff Bezos, and the sense of humor of Jimmy Fallon. And you know you don’t. Get over yourself. Even when my age falls into their criteria, it really turns me off.

If you’re dating or can remember back that far, what are/were some of your biggest turn offs?

Moving on. What is with this new trend in men’s tailoring where the pant length is so short? I don’t care if it’s the newest thing, high-waters are not attractive. I was on the street next to a very well-dressed, attractive thirty/forty-something man. Naturally, I checked him out. I was “yea” until I saw his ankle-exposing pants and it was all “nay” from there. Just because it’s in style, doesn’t mean it looks good. What do you all think of this new trend: Yea or Nay?

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I love my blog, but with all the hype about newsletters, I’ve set one up on Mailchimp. I haven’t figured out how I’m going to use it, but I know my subscribers will get treats likely not accessible to anyone else, whether it be free books, giveaways, or first-looks at new covers/titles. The sign-up is below and also on the right sidebar of my website. You can unsubscribe at any time.

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I’ll be announcing the title of my November release with Henery Press in June. I’m beyond excited about this book! While I finalize the editing process and await the cover art, I’m working on the third Blogger Girl book, releasing in April, 2018. I’m planning a wedding, something I’ve never had to do before, and my street team already helped me choose the flavor for my couple’s wedding cake. If you’re interested in joining the street team, please reach out for details.

Finally, I’m giving away two print copies of Kim vs. the Mean Girl on Goodreads. Enter between now and May 31st. (U.S. only.)

I think that’s enough for today. I have a client manuscript critique to work on, a monthly word count to meet, and dinner plans tonight. And I haven’t even showered yet. TMI?

Until next time.

To my single sisters

Jane Frank, the main character in my novel A State of Jane is ready to fall in love again after terminating her only long-term relationship. Although Jane Frank and Meredith Schorr (me…) do not have much in common, we both did battle with the New York City dating jungle at one time or another and we both tried many different ways to meet “the one.”

Since A State of Jane deals at least in part with Jane’s journeys in dating, I was asked by Julie from Julie’s Chick Lit to write a post for her blog on 6 ways to go Man-Hunting and I have shared the link with you below. With the exception of matchmaking, I have tried everything in my post with varying degrees of success (and enjoyment). I tried to be as objective as possible…:

http://julieschicklit.com/2013/03/27/meredith-schorrs-6-best-places-to-go-man-hunting/